I do believe that in Deborah Tannen had set realistic situations in her article about male and female communication and socialization styles. If I were a mediator, I would explain to each of them that men and women have extremely different ways of communicating and give them situations that they could better understand eachothers piont of veiws so that they will be better at socializing together and not have to wory about the other on feeling that they aren't being heard. Hopefully that will eliminate any misconceptions that they hae for eachother.